tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4175086287677676137.post7640975979226848182..comments2023-05-07T14:53:40.130+03:00Comments on My Reflections: I'm getting a bit tired of this nowTanyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111576072479384266noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4175086287677676137.post-18764849508483409242009-10-22T21:06:24.497+02:002009-10-22T21:06:24.497+02:00Oy... I'm so sorry you're having such a ro...Oy... I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time.<br /><br />[[[HUGS]]]AngelConradiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09423318903817661244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4175086287677676137.post-21315890112560569042009-10-21T20:32:03.501+02:002009-10-21T20:32:03.501+02:00Hi dear Tanya
what a dilemma, but I think your fr...Hi dear Tanya<br /><br />what a dilemma, but I think your friend have a point. You cannot be a good mother without feeling good about yourself. So make the decision that is right for YOU and not everyone else. Then you will be happy and content and your needs met and will be able to GIVE out from that point to others and what their needs are. God loves you so much, don't ever devalue yourself, you are one of his amazing children.... and when you are weak, He is able.... reach out to him...<br />lots of love, hugs and prayers will be said for you. <br />KarenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4175086287677676137.post-87737158488391504802009-10-21T13:31:14.016+02:002009-10-21T13:31:14.016+02:00saying hello.saying hello.Wenchyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03034000885444098456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4175086287677676137.post-19334866625768905302009-10-20T07:22:15.001+02:002009-10-20T07:22:15.001+02:00Just a suggestion:
1. Your Dad: If your dad conti...Just a suggestion:<br /><br />1. Your Dad: If your dad continues to try and guilt you into moving in with him you will resent him for the entire time that you stay with him. You mentioned a little while ago that your brother (according to your dad’s perception) had convinced him to go to counselling. Perhaps it would be a good idea to tell your dad how you feel during a counselling session so that 1: the kids are not there & 2: you have the counsellor as a sort of back-up. Children remember the smallest things from their childhood that scare them or make them feel sad.<br />2. J: He seems to have said one of the most unselfish things, ”J says I need to put myself first - and make a decision based on that”. The reason why this is such good advice is because you can not be a good mother unless you can feel good inside your soul. Ultimately you will do what is best for your children too but you can not do that when you have a “power struggle” going on between the two men in your life and internal conflict that could tear you apart and you feel this guilt and duty. <br /><br />Where are you in all this?<br />You have friends out there who given half the chance would help you in any way they could. That help won’t necessarily come in monetary form but any help will be good, even a willing ear.<br /><br />To be a good daughter you need to give your father the space to live his life even if he does not realise this right now. It’s what I did for my mom, I had to let go and not continue to try and convince myself that we had to take care of her. Yes it is more difficult when it comes to a man. We all take care of our husbands in varying degrees and when we are not there anymore it can be quite a shock.<br /><br />Finally, maybe you should consider counselling for you too... It is so difficult to come to terms with the fact that someone you loved so much is not there anymore. Personally, my dad and I sadly only bonded properly last year October and in November he wasn’t there anymore... It hurts.Lauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10086457708159716588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4175086287677676137.post-18428496253638630532009-10-16T12:35:37.415+02:002009-10-16T12:35:37.415+02:00*hugs**hugs*A Daft Scots Lasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01922985143036647579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4175086287677676137.post-56276596769232696432009-10-15T23:30:02.484+02:002009-10-15T23:30:02.484+02:00(((HUGS))) I have no idea what to suggest... no cl...(((HUGS))) I have no idea what to suggest... no clue at allAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00111625953496244923noreply@blogger.com