Friday, October 28, 2011

I am woman, hear me roar!

I finally stood up to J yesterday and I’m still like “wtf?”


Last weekend was his weekend, but my dad wanted to take the girls to the Smurfs on Sunday – So I called on Monday to ask what his plans were so I would know what time to book the tickets.

I get told he is going away and is only getting back on Saturday – but will confirm by Wednesday if he is fetching the girls on Saturday OR Sunday

(Like he doesn’t have enough weekends to go away!)

So I say “can’t you take them next weekend for the whole weekend then?” He tells me no, its Month end he has stuff to do.

Anyway – weekend comes and goes – no phone calls no Jason.

He calls me last night, says “I have nothing on tomorrow night can I pick the girls up from school and drop them off on Saturday”

I said no, that he said he wasn’t taking the girls this weekend so I made plans for us – so then he says I can pick them up early then.

I still said no! I won’t allow him to treat the girls like they are “hobbies” that he does when he has nothing else to do!

I told him he either takes them for a full weekend when he is meant too or he doesn’t take them at all.

So he asked “what must I do if my friends have their birthday parties, I can’t ask them to move their birthday’s”

so I said well in that case Jase you made your choice and it wasn’t the girls!

I mean ffs I can’t pick and choose when I have the girls?

He is living the flippen high life, acting like a teenager with his jolling and the girls must just “slot in” when he has nothing on?

No ways. Not on my watch. I would rather he never see the girls then see them like that!

As it is Lem doesn’t want to go there anyway anymore because of how he has been threatening her – she is terrified he pitches up there today – but I’ve informed the school (again) not to let him fetch them unless I say so.

Then of course I had to listen to him go on about how he is a better father in one day then I am a mother in a whole month, how I do nothing for the girls other then “routine” stuff and how he has always said he will take the girls full time (please he wouldn’t last a week!)

My girls are NOT a hobby and I wont allow him to treat them like that. He can take me to court if he wants. I'll even drive him there myself!


Anonymous said...

I completely agree with you!!!! If he has a party on "their" weekend, he must either take them with or if it's an adults only part NOT GO! That's the darn grown-up thing to do.

Laura said...

WELL DONE! This is honestly the most liberating thing you can do!!!

I am now focusing on B-O-U-N-D-A-R-I-E-S - they are sooooo important.

PS - on the Lemon thing - Cameron also didnt want to go at one stage - I didnt force him BUT I also said that he cant take just one. It causes tension but I was not willing to put my kid in a situation he was not emotionally mature enough to handle!!!